How Attachment Styles Affect Relationships & Other Advice from Two Relationship Therapists

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SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I talk to licensed therapist and life coach John Kim about his amazing new book It’s Not Me, It’s You, simple tips to improve your relationships, how to manage feelings of resentment, the importance of love languages and attachment styles, how to break the blame cycle, and so much more.

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6:08 Working on your relationship while raising kids
10:50 Careers, relationships & children
12:05 Why John & his partner Vanessa wrote It’s Not Me, It’s You
14:16 The “lightning in a bottle” myth
20:25 Rocky times do not mean that a relationship is a failure
21:30 The importance of compromise & communication
21:43 Try to understand before trying to be understood
25:11 How childhood protective habits & attachment styles can affect relationships
29:58 How to find beauty in the contrast & improve understanding
35:28 Relationships are not easy but they are worth it!
41:18 How to manage arguments: don’t wait to long.

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